Alone but married

2011-11-10T16:03:00.000-08:00

First and foremost, my helper at home just started yelling and when I came to see what all the problem was about, I saw that there was a long snake slithering near the house. It was a scary sight and as one who dislike snakes, I pray it went away for good.

I am reading a book by Joshua Harris entitled I Kissed Dating Goodbye. I am married but very much estranged from my husband.

I've got a friend, who has been married three times, divorced twice. She said she is now contented, having found a husband whom she can depend on -- he is perhaps not as exciting as the former two, but she is happy. That is what's important. I am trying to find myself in this blog, through my writing -- the reasons why I am unwilling to let go of my 'long gone' marriage. My husband has decided to marry again, without my knowledge over a decade ago, while still being married to me. I guess he thought just because he converted his religion, he could act as he please, without the consent of his wife, forgoing me etc.,. So he did.

When I look at my situation, and I look at the situation of so many others who are like me -- I guess I am not alone. I wish marriages last forever, and I wish the two people in it strives to be responsible people towards each other first, towards their promises to be true to each other.

I read a report from a minister in the government here before, and he states that the main reasons people divorce is because of money problem. I see it another way. If both partners in a marriage acts in a truthful manner, stays away from people who could steer them away from their responsibility as a husband and as a wife, even with the money problem, the marriage will stay intact. Even with throngs of other problems, the marriage will still be there.

But of course, the two has to be able to communicate with each other. Nothing is worse than being stuck in a marriage where communication is void.

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Alone but married